What Prevents People from Accessing Therapy?

A gentle look at what might be getting in the way...

Deciding to see a therapist can feel like a tender step. For many, it’s a quiet act of courage. Yet so many people who could benefit from counselling never reach out - not because they don’t feel they want to reach out for support, but because something inside feels unsure.

Before someone makes contact, there are often emotional, practical or personal barriers. Here are some of the most common reasons people avoid starting therapy - and what may gently sit beneath them.

“Other People Have It Worse.”

When we compare our struggles to others, our own pain can feel unworthy of attention. Therapy in the UK isn’t only for crisis - it’s also for stress, burnout, grief, anxiety, relationship difficulties, low self-esteem or simply feeling stuck.

Your feelings matter.

Not Knowing What to Expect from Counselling

The unknown can bring anxiety. People often wonder:

What if I cry?

What if I don’t know what to say?

What if I’m not ready to talk about everything?

A person-centred approach allows you to set the pace. Therapy meets you where you are - with respect and sensitivity.

Fear of Being Judged

This is one of the most common barriers. Past experiences may have shown someone that it’s safer to hide parts of themselves. But therapy offers acceptance, curiosity and space to be real - without judgement

“I Should Cope on My Own - I Always Have Until Now...”

Independence can become a survival strategy. Many people feel guilty asking for help. Therapy is not about weakness - it is about connection. Feeling heard can bring clarity, relief and renewed strength.

Practical Barriers to Therapy

Time, cost, childcare, travel, work pressure - these are real concerns. But therapy can be flexible, including:

online counselling

short-term therapy

fortnightly sessions

sliding-scale or low-cost options

Support can be shaped around your life.

A Difficult Past Experience with Therapy

If therapy hasn’t felt helpful before, it can feel risky to try again. But no two therapists are the same. A different relationship can lead to a different experience.

A Gentle Invitation

If you’d like to explore therapy gently and at your own pace, you’re welcome to get in touch. We can start with a conversation - no pressure, no commitment - just space to see what feels right for you.

You are welcome here. 🕊️